5 Insane Reasons Why Guys Refuse to Learn –

What’s stopping you from picking up girls?

Whether you’re simply not in a rush, or think it’s morally wrong, this post looks at 5 insane reasons guys choose not to improve their game.
If you don’t want to end up sexually inexperienced, unhappy and alone by the time you hit 40, read on…and take action.

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Learning how to pick up girls is morally wrong


For some unknown and baffling reason many guys choose not to learn pick up because they think it’s seedy, manipulative and down right wrong.

If you’re struggling with inner morals and would rather live out the rest of your life as a celibate monk, then feel free to stop reading now, because you needn’t know that books teaching women how to seduce men outweigh books teaching men how to pickup women. SAY WHAT???!!!

Go into any bookstore or punch a few search terms into Amazon and you’ll be knocked off your seat by the sheer volume of difference.

It’s true, and becoming someone who knows what girls want, what they fantasize about, what kind of guy they desire to meet, or what turns them on is far more appealing to a girl than a shy, awkward man who knows nothing of what women secretly desire.

“People want to be led astray, they yearn to be seduced. If they didn’t, seducers would not find so many willing victims. Get rid of any moralising tendencies, adopt the seducer’s playful philosophy, and you will find the rest of the process easy and natural.” – Robert Greene, The Art of Seduction

So if it’s morals that are stopping you just remember this: the girls want to be seduced and are learning how to seduce you too.

The Game is bullsh*t

the game

Another crazy reason men bluntly reject pickup is because they refuse to believe there is method to picking up girls and that getting laid is only ever about having a lucky night or just reserved for good looking guys who are naturals at attracting girls.

Let me share my personal story with you:

When I first stumbled upon the seduction community I was very skeptical. My friends were even more skeptical, and when they heard I was thinking of buying a book about it they warned me not to bother because it was probably all a load of bullish*t.

Thing is, none of my friends were successful with girls and since nobody had actually tried the stuff, I decided to take a risk and give it a go.

I took a chunk out of my student loan and bought the same audio book most of the world’s famous pick up artists started with: Double Your Dating

After impatiently waiting for my audio book to arrive from the States, when it finally did, I signed for it with the courier, rushed into my room, pushed the first of 12 CDs into my stereo, stretched out on my bed and started to listen.

The occasional flat-mate would stop by, eaves drop for a couple of minutes, then walk away shaking their head saying “what a load of rubbish”, but I ignored them, ploughed on, and bit by bit the information began to sink in.

A few weeks later I found myself in a bar, wearing the most ridiculous outfit (night shades included) and was chatting up a beautiful girl from Canada (who later became my girlfriend).

From that day forward I was convinced – this stuff works, and my adventure into the art of pick up didn’t stop there.

I’ve since read dozens of books, tried various different gurus’ teachings and am now known by my closest friends as “that guy” who cleans up whenever we hit the clubs.

I perfected my game using Richard La Ruina’s rejection proof techniques and now get at least two once night stands a week.

“Seducers do not improvise; they do not leave this process to chance. Like any good general, they plan and strategize, aiming at the target’s particular weakness.” – Robert Greene, The Art of Seduction

But before I took the leap into teaching myself all about this, I had to face the biggest obstacle that all men must get through first:

Unwillingness to change

40 Year Old Virgin (2005) Steve Carell

Indeed, it’s hard to admit to yourself that you’ve got no game and you’re not going to get anywhere if you keep on doing what you’re doing.

But once you accept the reality of your situation, admit your short comings and adapt, you’ll never regret shaving your beard off, changing your entire wardrobe, reducing the amount you talk about yourself, saving your Michael Jackson dance moves for the kitchen, or whatever it is you need to do that unblocks the barrier between you and a world of women you’d have never had the chance to meet before.

A world of women is waiting for you, the question is, are you ready to become a guy they want to meet?


If you are unwilling to change you are unwilling to meet women.

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Once you accept that small changes need to be made, women will in turn, accept you.

Changing yourself does not mean destroying your entire personality, it merely means, (not to sound cheesy), being the best you, you can possibly be.

You can play around with various different styles and techniques, to find out what works best for you:

“Seducers can be anyone and can assume many roles…not weighed down by their identity, or by some need to be themselves, or to be natural. This freedom of theirs, this fluidity in body and spirit, is what makes them attractive.” – Robert Greene, The Art of Seduction

Happy to settle

not letting go

Many guys will settle for whatever girl they can get and will hold onto them with everything they’ve got because they are scared they’ll never meet anyone else and end up alone.

Learning pickup will make you never, ever feel this fear again, because you’ll know that even if your relationships do turn sterile, you’ll be able to get back in the game and meet new women immediately.

What’s more is once you get out there and start meeting a variety of women, you’ll not only have more options, but a far clearer taste of exactly the kind of girlfriend you really want, which will dramatically decrease your chances of getting stuck in a doomed relationship.

“If you want real passion, you need a ravisher and a ravishee; otherwise, you just have two buddies who decide to rub genitals in bed.” – David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man.

So what could be worse than settling?…ummmmm, playing the waiting game of course!

I’m not in a rush

not in a rush

“Men who have lived significant lives are men who never waited: not for money, security, ease, or women.” – Matt Ridley, The Red Queen

Waiting around for “the one” is perhaps the greatest mistake a man can make. Sure, some guys get lucky when one day miss perfect falls right into their lap, but for the most of us, winning big on the waiting game rarely pays off because the odds are always stacked heavily against us.

“The one” is out there, but if you don’t invest any effort to meet her then chances are she’ll meet some other guy first.


Time will creep up on you.

The longer you wait, the more likely you’ll end up at alone at 40, wondering what the hell you were waiting for.

It’s a jungle out there, so think of yourself as a Gazelle being chased by a Cheetah:

“What matters to the gazelle is being faster than other gazelles, not being faster than cheetahs.” – Matt Ridley, The Red Queen

If you’re fed up of watching all the jocks pull the girl you like right in front of you, then perhaps it’s time to overtake them, so you don’t get left behind and devoured by loneliness.


Taking the first baby steps to learning pick up can feel daunting – it seems more like a giant leap across a vast canyon than a hop across a stream.

But if you’ve read this post and realised the need to take action, then you’re already halfway there.

If you’re worried that picking up girls requires becoming a whole new person, it doesn’t.

You don’t need to memorize a load of lines or routines and you don’t need to pretend you’re someone you’re not.

Gurus like Richard La Ruina, will show you it’s things like body language and non verbal communication that are the real secrets to picking up girls.

Check out Richard’s online video course by reading our Review of Stealth Attraction here.

You’ll never know what you can do until you try it out for yourself, and once you do, you’ll look back on your old life with a chuckle 🙂

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